So you want to bring something new and exciting into your life but are not sure if it should be a personal investment class, a comfy sofa, a kitchen remodel or orgasms?  This, my friends, is no dilemma.  Orgasms don’t cost anything.  They fit into every room of the house, require no new electrical outlets, never need to be cleaned and require no heavy lifting when you have finally had enough of your grungy little kitchen.  They are, by far, the best investment you can make

 ORGASMS 101

Consciously decide to bring more orgasms into your life.  While they slip in every once in a while without prior scheduling, the best way to insure their spontaneity is to plan time for them.

 The harder you work at having orgasms the more likely you are to hear your neighbors enjoying them while your efforts prove fruitless. Hold open the door and invite them in by conscientiously receiving the caring in your beloved’s touch.  Force ketchup bottle open, not orgasms. 

 Your body is a machine.  It effectively makes orgasms if touched the right way.  Get informed by talking to friends (heaven forbid), buying books and videos or taking classes to learn how to get the results you want.  I encourage you to join me for an intimate teleseminar series all about sexual skill and technique at www.sexualitysalon.com/coaching. It takes skill. Not magic or luck. 

Both men and women are capable of multiple-orgasmic experiences.  This means you are among the lucky ones.  Developing these skills takes time and continuous effort and guarantees that your best orgasms are yet to come.

To raise your level of personal and marital bliss, consider using the same methods at home that you do to achieve success at the office.
Business Plans, Mission and Vision Statements
At the foundation of every successful business is a vision statement that clarifies why the company exists, a mission statement as to its goals and a business plan outlining how success will be reached. Is there a comparable framework for your marriage and family? While global concepts such as “to honor and obey in sickness and in health” are laid out during the marriage ceremony, few couples regularly sit down to specify what they each want to get out of their life together and as individuals, how they intend to succeed, and what kind of help they need from each other.

Defining Success
Determine your measures of success and be intentional about achieving them. What would a successful life and marriage include for you? For Candice success is feeling close emotionally and having time for great conversation regularly. She also needs a lot of time alone. Her husband Jack needs a fulfilling sex life, the exchange of humor and a vigorous social life. All these parameters must be considered as they construct and live out their lives and marriage.

Job descriptions and Power Hierarchies:
While every one is brought into a company for a specific purpose, many family members are unclear as to their job description and position in reference to power distribution. This creates stress. For example, some men prefer having minimal home responsibility because they generate income which facilitates the family lifestyle. If their wives agree, this viewpoint isn’t problematic. Unfortunately, these same men can get critical of how things are done at home and don’t notice the frustration they feel when busy with work. When the family is together for an extended period of lime, during a weekend or vacation, they may suddenly take charge of something that is usually her domain. Without prior discussion these men attempt to improve things with their own methods, overpowering current protocols and upsetting their wives, kids or both. This results in upset for every one. Men feel their contributions are not wanted, wives feel disrespected and kids get confused.

My next live event in Los Angeles: to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com
Male sexuality is one of the most misunderstood aspects of humanity. While many of us think men would be completely pleased if they only had enough, the truth is far more complex. There is a wisdom and sensitivity to the masculine way of being that is not to be found elsewhere.

This month at the Sexuality Salon, we will be exploring the unique and sacred nature of masculinity. We will be shedding light on some of the secrets of male sexual function and discuss the male use of erotic love in opening a man’s access to his heart and spirit. to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com

Are you proficient in accomplishing your work related tasks? Most of us must be highly skilled in the work arena to be successful. In fact, continuing to hold a job or run a business is dependent entirely on continually proving your value to your employer or the marketplace. This requires monitoring and updating your skill sets and goals on a regular basis as well as adapting to changes in your environment.

A happy marriage and home life are challenging to achieve and maintain. Divorce and stress statistics show us that most people are not successful. To attain your goals of a balanced and healthy life consider the strategies you already use to generate success at work and adapt them. Implementing the protocols of one will enhance the other.

You have expertise for personal and marital success that you are not aware of because they are utilized in the work related domain only.

Learn how to utilize business plans, mission and vision statements to strengthen your relationship at home in
Using Work skills for a happy home life Part II

A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and . . . zzzz. I don’t know who
invented the romantic ideal of wining and dining followed by passionate
lovemaking, but whoever it was did not understand the human body and
probably had mediocre sex. To feel desire and make love well, your body
needs certain conditions. Keep the following in mind:

The shared pleasure of a sumptuous meal is a lovely way to unite two
loving souls. But if you also want to unite sexually, eat early and take
two hours to digest before making love.
Try an early dinner and make your date a dessert date. A light dessert
(as opposed to something large and sinfully rich) is a fun way to share
something sensuous.

Or, make love before dinner. Instead of using the intimacy of a meal to
bring you together, why not work up an appetite with a delicious
intimate encounter?

If you drink alcohol on your date, keep it moderate. Alcohol can be a
sexual asset if one of you is
nervous or shy, but drinking can also inhibit sexual
function by sedating your nervous system.

Be careful about your after-dinner coffee. If you need caffeine to jump
start lovemaking, don’t drink so much that you won’t be able to sleep
afterward.

The room you make love in should be cozy and warm. If your feet are
chilled, it may take more genital stimulation to warm them up.

If you are exhausted or stressed out when you get to the bedroom, don’t
push it. Use the sexual energy you do have to create a calmer, gentler
intimacy. Or go to sleep and get ready for a passionate morning.

Drink something hot after making love. Red hot passion uses the body’s
energy reserves. Once you’ve cooled off, hot cider or herbal tea can put
the heat back in.

Have fun creating the perfect date for sexual healing~

Many couples notice that it takes a vacation away from daily stresses to

relax the body, free the mind, and rediscover sexual desire. That’s

because erotic love naturally blends together with physical and mental

healing. When you recover from an illness or climb out from under that

mountain of papers, your sex drive returns. Overwork, worry, and

physical strain consume the juice needed to run your sexual batteries.

But in case you had forgotten, sex, like health, is worthy of

rediscovery.

Everything in life is easier if you are having great sex. Mountains turn

into molehills. You appreciate of the goodness life brings you, your

outlook brightens, and your body feels more vital. If you think these

statements aren’t true, you have never had great sex on a regular basis.

So why must it take a bungalow, a Jacuzzi, and your parents babysitting

for a week to revive the passion confined by the daily grind?

It is possible to maintain that healthy hunger for life and each other

without depending upon that elusive weekend off. But you must have a

clear idea of how great sex and great health complement and create each

other. Then you can intentionally use one to access the other and create

lifestyle habits that allow you more of both.

In magnificent seclusion, hidden away from time and urban life, you and

your beloved will rediscover each other. Under the ancient arms of

gently swaying trees, you will regenerate yourselves. And while all

thought of budgets, children, and employment melt away, you may even

have the best sex of your life.

My next live event in Los Angeles is titled Intimacy, Sex and Spirituality~ How Women Work. I invite you to join me to develop a more proficient tool box for  generating deeper sexual pleasure for yourself  or your beloved. www.sexualitysalon.com

It all started out just great didn’t it? She was into you, you were into her. Every body had pink cheeks and even the dullest of chores could be accomplished with enthusiasm. You felt inspired, motivated, ready for anything. Most of all vital. Life was expressing its most magnificent aspects through your every move. “There were birds all around but you never heard them ringing, no you never heard them at all till there was” HER. Life is at its most colorful when we love. Springtime can be found in every season.

So how did her PMS creep into the picture? When did you notice that the birds were not singing as often? And what is it that gets them singing in the first place. I mean something must be going on to make her look that good. And something must not be going on as much when her glow has died down and the “honeymoon phase” is over.

The sense of renewal that we feel with a new love is not just a psychological phenomenon. The body makes chemicals that create physiological change thereby inducing affection, a sense of warmth, sexual yearning and inner peace. For example, oxytocin  is a hormone generally understood to support the release of a mother’s milk. When a woman feels that “let down” reflex and her breasts suddenly tingle with milk for her baby this is the primary hormone involved. Interestingly enough, love researchers are noticing that this little protein-based molecule is found in large numbers in newly infatuated men. Initial experiments teach us that the feelings of warmth used to enhance a woman’s experience of nursing are very similar to those to the emotions a newly appointed prince feels for his princess.

Unfortunately, the chemical boost that we feel with those first few sacred years of intimate relationship dissipates. Scientists are working on separating the hormones and enzymes necessary to create these experiences. One of these days you will be able to buy a spray bottle whose contents will bring back feelings of the “good old days”. Until then, a man must understand what makes her tick if he wants to keep that initial passion burning.

For my live February event, I will be hosting a class in Los Angeles Titled “Intimacy, Sex, and Spirituality~ How Women Work”. I will be teaching all about how to keep women inspired to make love! www.sexualitysalon.com

In my next blog entry I will teach you about seduction, and how to keep the flame burning decades into a committed relationship.

If currently single:

1. Include in your list of requirements that your intended have similar values for a great sex life. He or she must be continually willing to invest energy, time, money, ego flexibility, and creativity. An entire love affair is poised upon its weakest point. If that is sex, nothing else between you can be optimally strong.

2. Formulate your ideas as to the structure and priorities that will govern your next relationship sexually. How much time per week should be devoted to erotic loving optimally? Are you able to commit that time currently or do you need to make some changes in your schedule. When you see your next lover waving to you from the horizon of your life, have your lifestyle set up for some serious loving.

If you have chosen your beloved:

Bottom line: invest over time.

Bad reasons for a man to hook up with someone:

• you are tired of masturbating

• You want out of your singles-only condominium complex

• She is a dermatologist and you have moles to remove

Bad reasons for a woman to hook up with some one:

• You are trying to find something to do with your time besides graduate school

• Sleeping with just about anything is better than reading another romance novel

• You want to punish yourself for picking such a jerk last time

Good reasons for a man to hook up with someone:

• you love holding her when she cries

• she is worth selling your peter pan outfit for

• you realize that a “10″ is a “7″ who will stand by you

Good reasons for a woman to hook up with some one:

• you don’t need to be a bigger man than he is

• you will still find him sexy at 70

• Loving him means respecting you

Please share your insights, thoughts and questions with me below.

Lasting passion is an art form that requires discipline. Most of the sex studies tell us that we are not practicing enough. Over two thirds of American women do not have orgasms consistently. Almost all Americans (90%) experience some form of sexual dysfunction during their lives. Those, my friends, are failure statistics. We are, at best, mediocre artists.

Monogamy is too hard to do if it is not going to be great. And
nothing makes up for it being lousy. Nothing. It does not matter how
successful you are in other areas of life, without erotic passion and
joy, a big bite is taken out of the donut.

How is my sales pitch so far? Are you considering purchasing a new sex life?

Many of us get stupid when it is time to choose who we are going to
have sex with for the rest of our lives. We pick partners with whom we are not sexually Compatible. To make matters worse, the longer we stay together, the more time becomes justification to stay together. “Oh we’ve been living together for ten years. We have so much history.” Yeah, and all that history proves you are still duds in bed. You may pat your selves on the back for YOUR many anniversaries, but I’ll bet ya somebody else is patting at least one of you some place else. And if that isn’t the case, unfortunately statistics tell us that it probably will be soon.

Please share your insights, thoughts and questions with me below.

We spend years studying subjects like geography. Ask any girl the complete terrain of her boyfriends’ erogenous zones and she would likely fail. Ask him to find her clitoris, the center or her sexual universe. He is more likely to uncover the lost city of Atlantis en route. How about anthropology? Many of us know more about how people in other cultures mate than how to mate ourselves. Even chimpanzees in Africa have better sex education than we do.

Rather than marriage being built on a foundation of passion, we joke about how sexual bliss vanishes the day after the wedding. And how great was your wedding night, might I ask? Oh, never mind. We are all just too tired and worn out and probably haven’t eaten enough all day. So how are our bodies supposed to create fireworks with no fuses left? What a crazy culture.

Stop these ridiculous attitudes! Desist, cease, about face.
Redirect your attentions to the greatest of all life’s adventures.
Erotic intimacy is as exhilarating as climbing a tall mountain, as life
altering as a deep meditation with a strong teacher, as fulfilling as
retail therapy (that means a day in department stores, gentlemen), and
of greater value than anything money could buy you. It tastes better
than a chocolate sundae, and the visuals are as lumpy as any mountain range on earth. What a landscape!

Please share your insights, thoughts and questions with me below.

Up until the turn of this century many parents in china chose spouses for their infant children. They used physiognomy, facial feature reading, to determine many personality characteristics yet undeveloped. This is how future compatibility was assessed between the toddling bride and groom to be. Genital size and shape were also features read on the face. If their cooing children were not going to be a good fit, all the money in the world would not convince parents to push ahead with the match. Sexual compatibility was paramount. Without a glorious sex life between spouses, the marriage would not be strong. If the marriage were not strong, the family would weaken. Weak families made for ineffectual communities and how could any culture survive its enemies if all within was not steadfast. Good sex was a primary cause for social stability, while lousy sex brought violence and unrest in society as a whole.

Amazingly enough, our culture doesn’t acknowledge the need to cultivate a great sex life. Gourmet erotic adventures are supposed to happen automatically, delivered up hot, like pizza. We put sixty-plus hours a week into starting our own businesses or 40-plus hours into other peoples’ businesses. Researchers tell us that Americans make love for less than an hour a week over the course of a lifetime. This means it gets less time than you put into sitting on the toilet.

Nor are we trained with the skills to make it worth doing. Sex education is usually about the physiology of conception. You get to learn about this intimate subject with all the other 6th graders in your class. But then your friend’s girl friend is pregnant and you get to hear how he made that happen. Now that is quality education!

Please share your insights, thoughts and questions with me below.