Chinese medicine is the first medical system in the history of humanity to have a real medical focus on sexuality. Chinese researchers have studied how the body has responded to sex for the past thousands of years. We have documentation of things that were written in the BCs.
• Sex as a healing modality. Not just pleasurable but medical.
• Build stamina if you know how to make love right.
• You can actually lower biological age and become stronger in your overall stamina if you make love right.

Have you been making love to its fullest potential?

To raise your level of personal and marital bliss, consider using the same methods at home that you do to achieve success at the office.
Business Plans, Mission and Vision Statements
At the foundation of every successful business is a vision statement that clarifies why the company exists, a mission statement as to its goals and a business plan outlining how success will be reached. Is there a comparable framework for your marriage and family? While global concepts such as “to honor and obey in sickness and in health” are laid out during the marriage ceremony, few couples regularly sit down to specify what they each want to get out of their life together and as individuals, how they intend to succeed, and what kind of help they need from each other.

Defining Success
Determine your measures of success and be intentional about achieving them. What would a successful life and marriage include for you? For Candice success is feeling close emotionally and having time for great conversation regularly. She also needs a lot of time alone. Her husband Jack needs a fulfilling sex life, the exchange of humor and a vigorous social life. All these parameters must be considered as they construct and live out their lives and marriage.

Job descriptions and Power Hierarchies:
While every one is brought into a company for a specific purpose, many family members are unclear as to their job description and position in reference to power distribution. This creates stress. For example, some men prefer having minimal home responsibility because they generate income which facilitates the family lifestyle. If their wives agree, this viewpoint isn’t problematic. Unfortunately, these same men can get critical of how things are done at home and don’t notice the frustration they feel when busy with work. When the family is together for an extended period of lime, during a weekend or vacation, they may suddenly take charge of something that is usually her domain. Without prior discussion these men attempt to improve things with their own methods, overpowering current protocols and upsetting their wives, kids or both. This results in upset for every one. Men feel their contributions are not wanted, wives feel disrespected and kids get confused.

My next live event in Los Angeles: to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com
Male sexuality is one of the most misunderstood aspects of humanity. While many of us think men would be completely pleased if they only had enough, the truth is far more complex. There is a wisdom and sensitivity to the masculine way of being that is not to be found elsewhere.

This month at the Sexuality Salon, we will be exploring the unique and sacred nature of masculinity. We will be shedding light on some of the secrets of male sexual function and discuss the male use of erotic love in opening a man’s access to his heart and spirit. to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com

Are you proficient in accomplishing your work related tasks? Most of us must be highly skilled in the work arena to be successful. In fact, continuing to hold a job or run a business is dependent entirely on continually proving your value to your employer or the marketplace. This requires monitoring and updating your skill sets and goals on a regular basis as well as adapting to changes in your environment.

A happy marriage and home life are challenging to achieve and maintain. Divorce and stress statistics show us that most people are not successful. To attain your goals of a balanced and healthy life consider the strategies you already use to generate success at work and adapt them. Implementing the protocols of one will enhance the other.

You have expertise for personal and marital success that you are not aware of because they are utilized in the work related domain only.

Learn how to utilize business plans, mission and vision statements to strengthen your relationship at home in
Using Work skills for a happy home life Part II

Want to eat your way to sexual health? Traditional Oriental medicine has
some general suggestions. Eat the foods below regularly, though not
necessarily every day. Gradually, they will strengthen your sexual
vitality and help maintain it for years to come.

• Foods with a salty flavor (such as celery, seaweed, and fish)
• Black, gray, and dark blue foods (e.g., black beans, blue corn,
blueberries, miso, olives, dark mushrooms)
• Fish (freshwater is helpful, but ocean fish is better)
• Lamb, beef, or deer meat
• Seafood (shrimp, crayfish, lobster, oysters, mussels)
• Eggs
• Tofu (well cooked)
• Bone marrow (use this to make soups)
• Organ meats (especially kidneys)
• Quail and quail eggs
• Walnuts
• Molasses (a teaspoon in a cup of hot water)

A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and . . . zzzz. I don’t know who
invented the romantic ideal of wining and dining followed by passionate
lovemaking, but whoever it was did not understand the human body and
probably had mediocre sex. To feel desire and make love well, your body
needs certain conditions. Keep the following in mind:

The shared pleasure of a sumptuous meal is a lovely way to unite two
loving souls. But if you also want to unite sexually, eat early and take
two hours to digest before making love.
Try an early dinner and make your date a dessert date. A light dessert
(as opposed to something large and sinfully rich) is a fun way to share
something sensuous.

Or, make love before dinner. Instead of using the intimacy of a meal to
bring you together, why not work up an appetite with a delicious
intimate encounter?

If you drink alcohol on your date, keep it moderate. Alcohol can be a
sexual asset if one of you is
nervous or shy, but drinking can also inhibit sexual
function by sedating your nervous system.

Be careful about your after-dinner coffee. If you need caffeine to jump
start lovemaking, don’t drink so much that you won’t be able to sleep
afterward.

The room you make love in should be cozy and warm. If your feet are
chilled, it may take more genital stimulation to warm them up.

If you are exhausted or stressed out when you get to the bedroom, don’t
push it. Use the sexual energy you do have to create a calmer, gentler
intimacy. Or go to sleep and get ready for a passionate morning.

Drink something hot after making love. Red hot passion uses the body’s
energy reserves. Once you’ve cooled off, hot cider or herbal tea can put
the heat back in.

Have fun creating the perfect date for sexual healing~

Many couples notice that it takes a vacation away from daily stresses to

relax the body, free the mind, and rediscover sexual desire. That’s

because erotic love naturally blends together with physical and mental

healing. When you recover from an illness or climb out from under that

mountain of papers, your sex drive returns. Overwork, worry, and

physical strain consume the juice needed to run your sexual batteries.

But in case you had forgotten, sex, like health, is worthy of

rediscovery.

Everything in life is easier if you are having great sex. Mountains turn

into molehills. You appreciate of the goodness life brings you, your

outlook brightens, and your body feels more vital. If you think these

statements aren’t true, you have never had great sex on a regular basis.

So why must it take a bungalow, a Jacuzzi, and your parents babysitting

for a week to revive the passion confined by the daily grind?

It is possible to maintain that healthy hunger for life and each other

without depending upon that elusive weekend off. But you must have a

clear idea of how great sex and great health complement and create each

other. Then you can intentionally use one to access the other and create

lifestyle habits that allow you more of both.

In magnificent seclusion, hidden away from time and urban life, you and

your beloved will rediscover each other. Under the ancient arms of

gently swaying trees, you will regenerate yourselves. And while all

thought of budgets, children, and employment melt away, you may even

have the best sex of your life.

My next live event in Los Angeles is titled Intimacy, Sex and Spirituality~ How Women Work. I invite you to join me to develop a more proficient tool box for  generating deeper sexual pleasure for yourself  or your beloved. www.sexualitysalon.com

It all started out just great didn’t it? She was into you, you were into her. Every body had pink cheeks and even the dullest of chores could be accomplished with enthusiasm. You felt inspired, motivated, ready for anything. Most of all vital. Life was expressing its most magnificent aspects through your every move. “There were birds all around but you never heard them ringing, no you never heard them at all till there was” HER. Life is at its most colorful when we love. Springtime can be found in every season.

So how did her PMS creep into the picture? When did you notice that the birds were not singing as often? And what is it that gets them singing in the first place. I mean something must be going on to make her look that good. And something must not be going on as much when her glow has died down and the “honeymoon phase” is over.

The sense of renewal that we feel with a new love is not just a psychological phenomenon. The body makes chemicals that create physiological change thereby inducing affection, a sense of warmth, sexual yearning and inner peace. For example, oxytocin  is a hormone generally understood to support the release of a mother’s milk. When a woman feels that “let down” reflex and her breasts suddenly tingle with milk for her baby this is the primary hormone involved. Interestingly enough, love researchers are noticing that this little protein-based molecule is found in large numbers in newly infatuated men. Initial experiments teach us that the feelings of warmth used to enhance a woman’s experience of nursing are very similar to those to the emotions a newly appointed prince feels for his princess.

Unfortunately, the chemical boost that we feel with those first few sacred years of intimate relationship dissipates. Scientists are working on separating the hormones and enzymes necessary to create these experiences. One of these days you will be able to buy a spray bottle whose contents will bring back feelings of the “good old days”. Until then, a man must understand what makes her tick if he wants to keep that initial passion burning.

For my live February event, I will be hosting a class in Los Angeles Titled “Intimacy, Sex, and Spirituality~ How Women Work”. I will be teaching all about how to keep women inspired to make love! www.sexualitysalon.com

In my next blog entry I will teach you about seduction, and how to keep the flame burning decades into a committed relationship.

Which health problems can acupuncture address?

Please note that the following information is based upon the teachings of Oriental medicine. Some, but not all of the information presented, has been documented by clinical research. Though acupuncture is being studied in universities and medical institutions around the world, the research has not caught up with the demand. This is due to the relatively recent recognition of acupuncture as a viable medical modality as well as the western medical establishment’s historical resistance to its use. You may wish to follow up your reading of this material by exploring what the current medical literature has to say.

The information on this site is not designed to substitute for proper medical care. If you have any health concerns, please see your physician before you explore other options.

The Oriental medical system helps the body improve any health condition that results from the body malfunctioning or not optimally doing what it is striving to do. For example, your body does not want to have a headache. In fact, it works hard to avoid them. If you suffer from them anyway, your body needs help correcting the problem that causes them. Acupuncture effectively helps your body adjust its own healing mechanisms to resolve the problem. As a result, acupuncture can support you in healing from a wide variety of ailments.

The range of health challenges improved upon by acupuncture includes but is not limited to:

1. Ailments that your current medical care is not addressing to your satisfaction: Chronic pain, including arthritis, migraines, back or neck pain, phantom limb pain, osteoporosis, residual injury pain and others…

Chronic illness including diabetes, asthma, gastrointestinal difficulties, allergies, skin disorders, HIV, chronic fatigue syndrome, post stroke or heart attack, MS, tobacco, alcohol and illegal drug addictions, osteoporosis and others…

Acute ailments including influenza, colds, food poisoning, hangover, toxic shock syndrome and others…

2. Difficult side effects of medical treatment: Post surgical healing, chemotherapy side effects, fertility treatment side effects, prescription medication addictions, medical testing side effects and others…

3. Orthopedic and Traumatic Injuries: Sports injuries including tendonitis, muscle sprains and strains, muscle tares, joint inflammation and others… (This medical system was the very first in history to have a branch specifically devoted to sports medicine. The martial arts, originating in China, are still the most injury prone of the world circuit competitive sports. Acupuncture and Oriental medicine have been treating martial arts and war related injuries since its inception over 2500 years ago).

Accidents including whiplash, disorientation, muscle spasm, body pain and others.

Violent or sexual assaults including emotional trauma, foggy thinking, absent mindedness, loss of sexual sensation, sexual function problems, depression, mood swings, and others.

4. Hormone related problems such as PMS and other menstrual disorders, menopausal symptoms, sexual function and desire problems in men and women, adrenal fatigue, infertility in men and women and others…

Acupuncture is only one of the many tools used by practitioners of Oriental medicine. When you go to see a practitioner, he or she will have many technique options to help you. Please see Oriental medicine section of this site for further details.

This is a very different medical system than the one you are used to. It is worth learning about as it answers many of the questions you may have about your health that your physicians, as well-trained, hard working and sincere as they may be, do not answer to your satisfaction.

What does acupuncture feel like?

It depends. This medical skill evolved all over Asia so there were many techniques devised. Some generate a great deal of sensation, others cannot be felt at all and several range in between. In the Americas, parts of Asia and Europe, most acupuncturists use techniques that generate little to no sensation. Once acupuncture needles are in place, the patient rests comfortably as the needles are generally not felt once in place. An acupuncturist may either continue to interact with a patient or leave the treatment room while the patient enjoys the calming and relaxing experience privately. Some practitioners make pleasant music available for patients during this period.

Acupuncture can feel wonderful! The process stimulates endorphins, internal morphine-like substances that create a calming and pleasurable state. Many patients fall asleep, have delicious daydreams or feel deeply relaxed as a result of treatment. Pain and anxiety dissipate leaving one feeling calm yet energized.

A teenage patient recently told Dr. Dunas that he no longer felt cravings to ingest the illegal drugs so prevalent in his high school. “I get off on the ‘high’ of acupuncture treatments so I just don’t need drugs to feel great,” he reported. Many patients look forward to the deep relaxation experienced during acupuncture treatments.

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If currently single:

1. Include in your list of requirements that your intended have similar values for a great sex life. He or she must be continually willing to invest energy, time, money, ego flexibility, and creativity. An entire love affair is poised upon its weakest point. If that is sex, nothing else between you can be optimally strong.

2. Formulate your ideas as to the structure and priorities that will govern your next relationship sexually. How much time per week should be devoted to erotic loving optimally? Are you able to commit that time currently or do you need to make some changes in your schedule. When you see your next lover waving to you from the horizon of your life, have your lifestyle set up for some serious loving.

If you have chosen your beloved:

Bottom line: invest over time.

Bad reasons for a man to hook up with someone:

• you are tired of masturbating

• You want out of your singles-only condominium complex

• She is a dermatologist and you have moles to remove

Bad reasons for a woman to hook up with some one:

• You are trying to find something to do with your time besides graduate school

• Sleeping with just about anything is better than reading another romance novel

• You want to punish yourself for picking such a jerk last time

Good reasons for a man to hook up with someone:

• you love holding her when she cries

• she is worth selling your peter pan outfit for

• you realize that a “10″ is a “7″ who will stand by you

Good reasons for a woman to hook up with some one:

• you don’t need to be a bigger man than he is

• you will still find him sexy at 70

• Loving him means respecting you

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