Gentlemen, what if you could have more and longer orgasms  each time?  Doesn’t that sound sweeter than Christmas cookies? 

Generally orgasm and ejaculation are considered to be the same experience.   But as my professional ancestors, the physicians of ancient China, noted, these are two very different events produced by the male body.  They may happen together or, with training a man may separate them.  Two plus millenium later, the new Kinsey Institute Report on Human Sexuality finally revealed to the world that this was indeed the case.  Ejaculation need not occur for a man to experience the deep joy or sexual climax.

Multiple orgasms burst forth when a man cultivates his staying power, learning to surf on the crest of pleasure.  Rather than climbing strait to the top of his pleasure scale, jumping off into post ejaculatory bliss, a man must learn to control his ejaculation.  Once that precious seed leaves his body, well, he is just asleep.

 ORGASMS 101

Consciously decide to bring more orgasms into your life.  While they slip in every once in a while without prior scheduling, the best way to insure their spontaneity is to plan time for them.

 The harder you work at having orgasms the more likely you are to hear your neighbors enjoying them while your efforts prove fruitless. Hold open the door and invite them in by conscientiously receiving the caring in your beloved’s touch.  Force ketchup bottle open, not orgasms. 

 Your body is a machine.  It effectively makes orgasms if touched the right way.  Get informed by talking to friends (heaven forbid), buying books and videos or taking classes to learn how to get the results you want.  I encourage you to join me for an intimate teleseminar series all about sexual skill and technique at www.sexualitysalon.com/coaching. It takes skill. Not magic or luck. 

Both men and women are capable of multiple-orgasmic experiences.  This means you are among the lucky ones.  Developing these skills takes time and continuous effort and guarantees that your best orgasms are yet to come.

You can lower your biological age by bringing more stamina into your body
through sexual play. The vitality that keeps us alive is intertwined
with sexual strength. The more vitality generated in the bedroom, the
more that’s available to live your life.

Likewise, if you waste your life force in the bedroom with unskilled sex, the weaker you become
generally. While sexual ecstasy inspires the body to function at its best, sexual frustration propels people into old age.

If you can’t remember, shame on you! It probably made your knees go weak AND brightened your whole day. I ask my patients and audiences which family member gets the first hug or kiss when they get home at the end of the day. IT’S USUALLY THE DOG.

Be sure to make it a wet, juicy kiss. Ancient Chinese physicians considered the saliva of one’s lover to be a health elixir. Kisses that exchange bodily fluids strengthen the kissers. And the more tongue action the better. The tongue is an extension of the heart. Touching tongues allows hearts to touch. Opening the mouth increases our appetite for greater closeness.

Have you been making love to its fullest potential?

Defining Success
Determine your measures of success and be intentional about achieving them. What would a successful life and marriage include for you? For Candice success is feeling close emotionally and having time for great conversation regularly. She also needs a lot of time alone. Her husband Jack needs a fulfilling sex life, the exchange of humor and a vigorous social life. All these parameters must be considered as they construct and live out their lives and marriage.

Job descriptions and Power Hierarchies:
While every one is brought into a company for a specific purpose, many family members are unclear as to their job description and position in reference to power distribution. This creates stress. For example, some men prefer having minimal home responsibility because they generate income which facilitates the family lifestyle. If their wives agree, this viewpoint isn’t problematic. Unfortunately, these same men can get critical of how things are done at home and don’t notice the frustration they feel when busy with work. When the family is together for an extended period of lime, during a weekend or vacation, they may suddenly take charge of something that is usually her domain. Without prior discussion these men attempt to improve things with their own methods, overpowering current protocols and upsetting their wives, kids or both. This results in upset for every one. Men feel their contributions are not wanted, wives feel disrespected and kids get confused.

My next live event in Los Angeles: to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com
Male sexuality is one of the most misunderstood aspects of humanity. While many of us think men would be completely pleased if they only had enough, the truth is far more complex. There is a wisdom and sensitivity to the masculine way of being that is not to be found elsewhere.

This month at the Sexuality Salon, we will be exploring the unique and sacred nature of masculinity. We will be shedding light on some of the secrets of male sexual function and discuss the male use of erotic love in opening a man’s access to his heart and spirit. to attend visit www.sexualitysalon.com

A happy marriage and home life are challenging to achieve and maintain. Divorce and stress statistics show us that most people are not successful. To attain your goals of a balanced and healthy life consider the strategies you already use to generate success at work and adapt them. Implementing the protocols of one will enhance the other.

You have expertise for personal and marital success that you are not aware of because they are utilized in the work related domain only.

Learn how to utilize business plans, mission and vision statements to strengthen your relationship at home in
Using Work skills for a happy home life Part II

• Foods with a salty flavor (such as celery, seaweed, and fish)
• Black, gray, and dark blue foods (e.g., black beans, blue corn,
blueberries, miso, olives, dark mushrooms)
• Fish (freshwater is helpful, but ocean fish is better)
• Lamb, beef, or deer meat
• Seafood (shrimp, crayfish, lobster, oysters, mussels)
• Eggs
• Tofu (well cooked)
• Bone marrow (use this to make soups)
• Organ meats (especially kidneys)
• Quail and quail eggs
• Walnuts
• Molasses (a teaspoon in a cup of hot water)

The shared pleasure of a sumptuous meal is a lovely way to unite two
loving souls. But if you also want to unite sexually, eat early and take
two hours to digest before making love.
Try an early dinner and make your date a dessert date. A light dessert
(as opposed to something large and sinfully rich) is a fun way to share
something sensuous.

Or, make love before dinner. Instead of using the intimacy of a meal to
bring you together, why not work up an appetite with a delicious
intimate encounter?

If you drink alcohol on your date, keep it moderate. Alcohol can be a
sexual asset if one of you is
nervous or shy, but drinking can also inhibit sexual
function by sedating your nervous system.

Be careful about your after-dinner coffee. If you need caffeine to jump
start lovemaking, don’t drink so much that you won’t be able to sleep
afterward.

The room you make love in should be cozy and warm. If your feet are
chilled, it may take more genital stimulation to warm them up.

If you are exhausted or stressed out when you get to the bedroom, don’t
push it. Use the sexual energy you do have to create a calmer, gentler
intimacy. Or go to sleep and get ready for a passionate morning.

Drink something hot after making love. Red hot passion uses the body’s
energy reserves. Once you’ve cooled off, hot cider or herbal tea can put
the heat back in.

Have fun creating the perfect date for sexual healing~