Two Scoops Are Better Than One: Multiple Orgasms for Men

If I had a penny for every time a typical male thought about having orgasms, I could have retired years ago. Any guy will tell you that few acts are as worthy of their full attention. These intense moments are given prime mental air time, but most men have no idea of their full orgasmic potential.

Climax is not to be underrated, but let’s face it: the whole thing passes by in about seven seconds. Surely the divine forces that conceived erotic bliss had something better in mind when inventing the male sexual experience.

Gentlemen, what if you could have more and longer orgasms each time you got yourself up? Doesn’t that sound sweeter than Christmas cookies? This subject reminds me of Jim Morrison singing, “Love me two times, love me two times, babe.” Instead of requiring yet another round of lovemaking, you could have as many orgasms as you wanted the first time and still have the energy to tell her about all the love you feel for her. Yes, it is possible. And if you are very nice to me, I will tell you how to immerse yourself in this ocean of joy.

Franklin lay on his back and stared at the ceiling. Awestruck, he still felt tingling waves coursing up from his genitals through his belly and chest. Though Kaitlin lay quiet beside him, she could see that his body was still actively involved in the lovemaking they had shared. His breathing was full and rhythmic, his erection lay luxuriously on his belly and his eyes shone brightly, as if he had just discovered buried treasure. Franklin felt peaceful yet vital, an entirely new combination of feelings for the concluding moments of sex. He thought he knew his full range or sexual sensations but had never felt anything like this. Blessed with a wonderful sexual history, he had had no complaints. But he realized that he was now venturing into new territory. The future of his sex life was going to be filled with deeper and richer feelings than he ever thought possible.

When Kaitlin suggested they begin exploring the erotic healing arts that are part of traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), Franklin had been happy to try something new. A patient of mine for several months, Kaitlin brought her lover in for a consultation and the three of us discussed the sacred Taoist lovemaking techniques intrinsic to TCM. These teachings combine the sexual, spiritual, and interpersonal aspects of loving another person. They blend into a rich tapestry of erotic pleasure, joy, and healing.

Generally, orgasm and ejaculation are considered to be the same experience. But as my professional ancestors, the physicians of ancient China, noted, these are two very different events produced by the male body. They may happen together or, with training, a man may separate them. Two-plus millennia later, the new Kinsey Institute Report on Human Sexuality finally revealed to the world that this was indeed the case: ejaculation need not occur for a man to experience the deep joy of sexual climax.

Many men already know this. They remember how busy their hands were as their adolescence blossomed. Studies show that young boys commonly have several orgasmic peaks in a masturbatory encounter, especially before their bodies begin to ejaculate. Many men have had occasional experiences of orgasm without ejaculating, or pre-ejaculatory orgasms.

Multiple orgasms burst forth when a man cultivates his staying power, learning to surf on the crest of pleasure. Rather than climbing straight to the top of his pleasure scale and jumping off into post-ejaculatory bliss, a man can, believe it or not, learn to control his ejaculation. Once that precious seed leaves his body, well, he is just asleep.

Taoist sages of ancient China taught that a man had to overcome his animal nature to manifest his greatest power. It is precisely because holding off ejaculating can be so challenging that it serves to strengthen men in every way. The benefits include greater vitality, sexual enjoyment, interpersonal intimacy, and spiritual awareness.

The Secret to Male Multiple Orgasm: Don’t Spill the Juice

* 1. Start with the idea of delaying ejaculation. It is fine to ejaculate later, if you like, and your ejaculation experience will be better than ever.
* 2. Touching yourself or receiving manual stimulation is a good way to start as it is less intense than oral sex or intercourse. Your goal is to take yourself as high as possible without going over the edge.
* 3. Continue to stimulate yourself enough to maintain the highest degree of sensation possible for an extended period of time. I call this “surfing,” as you are riding the crest of the wave without plunging in.
* 4. If you feel the urge to ejaculate, breathe deeply, imagining that you are pulling your sexual sensation up into your heart. Also, press gently but firmly on the base of your penis, closing off your urethra. This literally stops ejaculate from leaving your body. (Now, remember to be gentle-don’t break your penis, as you will need it for future use.)
* 5. As you spend more time at a high plateau of sensation, you will begin to discover intense moments that take you higher than you have ever been before. Slowly, these experiences will come in series and will change your outlook on your sexual potential forever.
* 6. Follow up this article with some reading on the subject so that these skills can truly impact your life. This is a complex set of skills that deserves every bit of studiousness you have left.
* 7. According to TCM, men who do not ejaculate enough go insane. This is a phenomenon that you have probably noticed. Striving for the multi-orgasmic experience should not replace a good popper. Add this fun stuff to the mix to improve your love life, not make it more frustrating.

You probably think that choosing not to ejaculate so as to have more orgasms sounds impossible, like holding ice in your mouth for an hour. But since these two physiological events, orgasms and ejaculation, are entirely separate from one another, it is possible to have many orgasms without ejaculating. Unfortunately, many men, especially older ones, have run into the opposite phenomena, ejaculating without even a hint of pleasure. Now, that’s no fun at all.

Another advantage of these techniques is they allow time for more intense excitement in women. The lucky recipients of their lovers’ expertise, Chinese women of noble birth were so sexually sated as to inspire envy in modern women. According to the erotic healing arts, satisfied women exuded more vital energy into their partners as lovemaking continued. Multi-orgasmic men had the skills to maximize the health-providing benefits of erotic loving by supporting maximum energetic exchange between partners.

Pleasure can beget health. Learning to separate orgasm and ejaculation requires patience and skill development. But what else are you going to be doing with your sex life for the next several years? Why not get good at something?

The results of your efforts? Well, you get to have multiple orgasms; she has more time to enjoy your romping about inside the jade chamber, which also allows her to experience more of her innate potential as a multi-orgasmic woman (see my previous column, in the September/October 2000 issue). Your love affair will feel like springtime in every season and your vitality level will allow you to leap over all obstacles. That’s not such a hard pill to swallow.

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