A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and . . . zzzz. I don’t know who
invented the romantic ideal of wining and dining followed by passionate
lovemaking, but whoever it was did not understand the human body and
probably had mediocre sex. To feel desire and make love well, your body
needs certain conditions. Keep the following in mind:
The shared pleasure of a sumptuous meal is a lovely way to unite two
loving souls. But if you also want to unite sexually, eat early and take
two hours to digest before making love.
Try an early dinner and make your date a dessert date. A light dessert
(as opposed to something large and sinfully rich) is a fun way to share
Or, make love before dinner. Instead of using the intimacy of a meal to
bring you together, why not work up an appetite with a delicious
If you drink alcohol on your date, keep it moderate. Alcohol can be a
sexual asset if one of you is
nervous or shy, but drinking can also inhibit sexual
function by sedating your nervous system.
Be careful about your after-dinner coffee. If you need caffeine to jump
start lovemaking, don’t drink so much that you won’t be able to sleep
The room you make love in should be cozy and warm. If your feet are
chilled, it may take more genital stimulation to warm them up.
If you are exhausted or stressed out when you get to the bedroom, don’t
push it. Use the sexual energy you do have to create a calmer, gentler
intimacy. Or go to sleep and get ready for a passionate morning.
Drink something hot after making love. Red hot passion uses the body’s
energy reserves. Once you’ve cooled off, hot cider or herbal tea can put
the heat back in.
Have fun creating the perfect date for sexual healing~